Chandler works well with teens and men who don’t easily open up, helping them feel comfortable, understood, and able to actually engage in the process.
Chandler Hill, LPC
Sex Addiction, Pornography Addiction & Infidelity Recovery
Best Fit For: Men whose pornography use, sexual behavior, secrecy, or infidelity has damaged trust in their relationship and who know that another apology probably isn't enough.
Focus: Pornography addiction, sex addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, infidelity recovery, betrayal, rebuilding trust, trauma, and men's accountability work.
Style: Direct, relational, non-shaming, and focused on real change.
Most men I see for this kind of work come in after something has happened.
Their wife or partner found texts, a porn history, an app, an affair, or something else they had been hiding. Sometimes there isn't one dramatic discovery. The pattern has just gone on long enough that the relationship is starting to break down.
Usually, the man already knows he needs to change. The harder part is figuring out why he keeps ending up in the same place.
I work with men struggling with pornography addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, infidelity, and other sexual patterns that have started costing them something important.
We look closely at what happens before the behavior. Stress, shame, rejection, loneliness, anger, disconnection, old trauma, or habits that started years ago can all become part of the cycle. Once we understand your pattern, we have something concrete to work with.
That does not erase the impact on your partner.
If trust has been damaged, part of therapy is learning how to deal with what comes next. Your partner may still be angry. They may ask questions more than once. They may not believe you yet. You may feel like you are trying hard and still getting treated like nothing has changed.
Those moments matter.
I help men notice what they tend to do when the pressure goes up. Maybe you get defensive. Maybe you shut down, minimize, get frustrated, or just want the conversation to be over. We work on staying present, being more honest, and responding in ways that are consistent over time.
Trust usually comes back slowly. What you do repeatedly matters more than saying the perfect thing.
Sometimes the person reading this profile first is the partner who found out. If that's you, it makes sense to want to know whether therapy is going to help your husband deal with what happened or simply give him another place to explain it away. My role is to help him look directly at the pattern, take responsibility for his choices, and work on becoming more reliable in how he shows up.
My background includes trauma treatment, addiction work, residential treatment, and intensive outpatient care. I use approaches such as Emotional Transformation Therapy (ETT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), depending on what we are working on.
Before becoming a therapist, I played collegiate football. I tend to connect well with men who are used to handling things themselves and who are not naturally drawn to sitting around talking about feelings for the sake of talking. I am also a husband and father of three, so I understand how much can be at stake when trust breaks down inside a family.
Outside of work, I'm into sports, gaming, anime, and pop culture. I've also lived in Asia and spent time in Europe, which has shaped the way I think about relationships, family, culture, and masculinity.
If pornography, sexual behavior, or an affair has damaged your relationship and you are tired of repeating the same cycle, that is a good place for us to start.
Chandler provides online therapy for adults throughout Texas.