Regulate, Reset, Reflect: A Simple Daily System to Improve Men’s Mental Health
If you’re a man stuck in survival mode—burned out, reactive, or just emotionally numb—this simple daily system might change everything. Built around the nervous system's natural rhythm, Regulate, Reset, Reflect is a practical men’s mental health routine designed to help you feel better without relying on motivation or perfection. Whether you’re dealing with stress, emotional burnout, or just trying to regain focus and stability, this 3-part system gives you real tools to regulate your emotions, reset your body during the day, and reflect at night.
No fluff. No fake positivity. Just a rhythm that works.
Excerpt from the upcoming book: Get Out of Your Head and Start Living: Your Survival Guide to Men's Mental Health By Dr. Gregory Donihoo
Let me be clear: this isn’t a formula. It’s not some perfect routine to master or a checklist to check off. What I’m about to share is simply the rhythm that finally worked for me—after years of trying things that didn’t.
It gave me something that didn’t rely on motivation. It didn’t demand willpower. And most importantly, it didn’t shame me when I missed a day. That’s what made it sustainable.
This rhythm—Regulate, Reset, Reflect—mirrors what your nervous system actually needs over the course of a day:
Regulate in the morning to create safety before life comes at you.
Reset mid-day to catch stress before it takes over.
Reflect in the evening to downshift and integrate the day.
This isn’t about doing it perfectly. It’s about creating a rhythm your body can trust.
🔹 Regulate (Morning): Start with Stability
Your nervous system is a pattern machine. The way you start your day trains your body to expect either chaos or calm.
Here’s what helped me ground myself in the mornings:
Wake up earlier than I needed to. Even 10 quiet minutes helped.
Wim Hof breathing (3 rounds). I used a YouTube guided session.
Journaling using an Emotion Wheel. I’d name two feelings and ask, “Why do I really feel this way?”
Short meditation or body scan. Sometimes I used Jung’s Active Imagination to visualize stuck emotions.
Try this: What’s one thing you can do in the first 15 minutes of your day to remind your body: “You’re safe now”?
🔹 Reset (Midday): Catch It Before It Spirals
Most men don’t realize how much stress they’re carrying until they snap—or shut down. By 3 PM, you’re either irritable, numb, or exhausted. That’s not weakness. That’s biology.
Midday resets helped me interrupt the spiral:
Breathwork. In the car, between sessions, or during tension with my partner.
Grounding outside. Feet in grass, fingers on stone, any physical texture to bring me back to the present.
Cold exposure. Splash of cold water to the face. Quick wrist rinse. Nervous system reset.
Body scans. Pausing to check: jaw clenched? Shoulders up? Gut tense?
Ask yourself: What usually throws you off during the day? What’s one 2-minute action you can take to reset in the moment?
🔹 Reflect (Evening): Close the Loop
Most guys don’t wind down—they crash. But sleep isn’t the same as recovery if your body is still bracing for impact.
Evenings became a way to help my system stop holding everything.
Here’s my evening rhythm:
Hot/cold shower or a cold plunge. Even a minute helps reset.
Connection with my wife. No phones. Just a real 30-minute check-in.
Screen-free time. Reading. Journaling. Silence.
Breathwork before bed. Either Wim Hof or slower Buteyko breathing.
Tonight, try this: What’s one thing you can do to tell your body: “You don’t have to keep holding it all”?
The Goal Isn’t Perfection—It’s Rhythm
You don’t need to do all of this every day. Hell, I don’t. But when I do some of it, most days—I feel better. I think clearer. I stop overreacting. I sleep better. I enjoy life more.
The goal is not to master your emotions like a drill sergeant. The goal is to build a rhythm that tells your body, again and again:
“You’re not in survival mode anymore. You’re allowed to feel good.”
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This post is just one excerpt from my new book: Get Out of Your Head and Start Living: The Survival Guide to Men's Mental Health.
It’s written for real men—guys who’ve tried therapy, self-help, or motivation hacks and still feel stuck. Inside, you’ll get practical tools, real stories, and a roadmap for emotional strength that actually works.
Coming Soon. Stay tuned. Stay grounded.
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